Sometimes you go through a day that you know will be significant to you for years to come
Because after you are done with it you feel this special type of nostalgia
Or maybe it’s just nostalgia
It just hits like right away
I’ve never experienced this much family before in my life
I’ve longed for it
And today I got so much of it
Couldn’t sleep last night, mother was doing flowers for ama
Mom wanted there to be baby’s breath mixed with the roses
And she was writing a little message to those
I hadn’t been in the apartment I grew up in in a while
Everything seemed small
And it felt a bit uncomfortable
I had the thought actually that i think it is wild that my mom got to raise me as a kid
Now that I know more about the world
But she loves me lots, got me the fluffiest blanket ha
Couldn’t sleep even after 2 melatonin – probs slept like 3 hours
Woke up and we headed over with AHinga to the mortuary
I had been fine all week, mostly kind of high
But when I saw the hall with the sign with AMA’s name I just started crying
Met up with my cousins and they brought ama out
Cold but still there
My dad sang for her, I recorded it bc I wanted to remember him doing this for ama
Mom said some words
Just tears streaming
This student that lived at AMA’s place also told his story of how ama used to house students and was super caring
Then we had to give out gifts and then flowers
For each person to place on her chest
And I think this was one of the worst things all day I felt so sad
You put the rose on Ama and then you gave your condolences to the family
I was near the last to do it and that was the last goodbye before they closed her coffin
Then I held her picture as we wheeled her downstairs to the cremation room
I was so tired but I remember every moment
Mom said it would be our last day with her on earth with us, and that was all I was thinking – the last minutes seconds with her
Took a break after we watched her go into the fire, it took almost 2 hours
Talked to the students son about his bug collection and how he works for outward bound and his homeschooling
Then was called to pick up the bones and put it into her urn
After all of it was swept up- and we put her skull in first when it was supposed to be her feet – sorry ama
They put her in a bag that I could strap around my neck
My aunt said she had a flashback of when ama had me slung on her back and now i had her on me
Rode dads car to our family cemetery, an hour’s drive on this mountain by the seaside
Holding ama
When we got there the view was amazing
And we sang hymns with her, everyone walked up and gave final rose petals touched the urn
And then a cousin gave the urn to me, and I walked her into the family tomb house
I felt really sad
Just the peak was here
I was the one to bring her in, and I am grateful for that, I hope I will do her well
I loved her very very much
We drove back and I was sleeping most of the way, exhausted
When we got back I chatted with my dad about how I think about
School – and how I don’t know if I should do this masters in finance in Singapore
Work – and how I have working theories on our decline and maybe I should stay to try and save the place
Life – and how Alison is such a great partner and girlfriend
Then drove home and honestly I’ve just been tired since now
But just super long day
I talked about what I did up above
But actually defined the day was everyone around me
Seeing people that loved ama
My huge extended family
My cousins
The student tenant
My mom and her aunts
And just being there
Etched in my memory forever
I love you ama
Your golden turtle boy